But, before we get to into this I am going to share with everyone one of the MOST important things to remember when talking about the military, deployments, or separations and it is called OPSEC. OPSEC stands for Operations Security. It means that the Safety of our Soldiers comes first and to never talk about Dates, Times, Places, Troop Movements, Missions, Numbers, or Equipment. The second and equally most important is PERSEC. PERSEC is Personal Security. Personal Security is about protecting your self and not posting or writing about when you leave your home or are going out of town. I have found a amazing blog and she gos into this in more detail, so go check out Household 6 Diva for more links and information on both. Now onto the rest...
Being married to the military is NOT easy! Every day you put aside your needs, your plans, your dreams for something that is bigger than your self, family and marriage. You do it for the pride you feel when your husband steps through the door after a long day in his "magic suit" or as you watch the look in the eyes of little kids as a group of Soldiers in uniform pass and see the excitement as if they just meet their hero's in real life. You do it because Pride in your Country and a understanding of what True Freedom is, is kinda a big deal to you.
I'm not saying there are not going to be days you want to walk out your front door and scream profanity's at innocent bystanders, because you are. Just remember everything is going to be OK!
Survival Tip #1
Have a sense of Humor!
My Husband used to always say or wright at the end of his letters or emails "Find a reason to smile and laugh today" and it would piss me off so bad! I would think, "what do I have to smile about? I am stuck here with all these kids and all this crap to deal with while you get to go see the world and I can't even leave the house!" But he was right! (I know...a husband was actually right for once) I went around angry, hateful and with a chip on my shoulder, and look out anyone who would complain about their husband going out with his friends for a night.
But all it got me was more anger and added to the chaos of trying to run a household with a revolving door.
When I learned to "let go" of all that hostility and could actually see the cute little funny things my kids did or said, everyday life became bearable. When I learned to laugh when I found a trail of open go-Gert wrappers with #3 at the end, because it was really funny him sitting there covered in yogurt they learned that weather Dad was here or not everything is going to be OK. When I learned to smile and join in when all of the kids decided it was a good idea to lay out ALL of my pots and pans in the living room and use them as drums I learned that life is going on right now and if I spent all my time "waiting" we were all going to miss out.
Learn to laugh at your kids, life and even your self. Smile at the little things. I know it sucks! Every day sucks when your Love is away and sucks even more when they are in harms way, but try a little bit everyday to find something to smile about and before you know it life won't suck as bad as you thought.
I found some little clips that made me laugh so I am going to share them with you...
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| bluntcard.com |
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| femailcreations.com |
Funny right? Stay tuned for the next one!
Thais
